While tip-toeing around the internet at lunch the other day, I stumbled upon this read, and was stopped dead in my tip-toeing tracks. I loved it. LOVED it.
The article & synopsis detail the development of Seth Rogan’s screenplay for the movie Neighbors. Specifically in developing the marriage of the lead character from a classic “uptight wife” & “useless husband” dynamic, to a loving friendship based relationship. Inspired by Rogan’s real life marriage, the on screen ensemble quickly contrasts the classic King of Queens style marriage that modern comedy has come to normalize.
Not only was I sincerely like “Duh!? Why haven’t other people thought of this” I did in fact remember saying “Rose Bryne is my homegirl” after seeing the movie. Not because of her wild-n-out antics, but sheerly for her fun and loving relationship with her husband.
Now that I know where the on screen ratatat came from, I am even more in love with the portrayal of the marriage in this movie. Who’d of thought a movie with a shirtless Zach Efron would have left me in love with Rose Byrne.
Do you high five your husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/life-partner/soul-mate?
Are you a big reader? A small reader? Maybe just a menu reader? I, at any given time can be one of all three. Whilst getting my interread (internet read) on I came across this article, and was a bit shocked at the statistics. Okay not super shocked, but I did sit back and go “aww what?”
33% of U.S. High School grads will never read a book after they graduate High School, and 42% of College grads will never pick up a page turner ever again… woah.
That being said if you are looking for a way to differentiate yourself from your demographic, pick up a book. The article goes on to talk about the benefits of reading, not only for entertainment, but also for the expansion of your intelligence, creativity, and emotional understanding.
I made it a personal goal to read more this year. I have made it through 12 books so far, and about 50ish pages into another 20 or so titles that stare at me intimidatingly from the nightstand. It’s a start right?
A few months before graduation I purchased this book, and this book. In hopes of helping myself gain a real world knowledge of money management. I had accepted my first “Real Job” and knew that my financial life was going to be very different once I graduated.
More money was coming in which was great, but being out on my own for the first time also meant that more money was going out. I spent the first few months struggling to contribute to my savings, and didn’t know how to properly proportion my budget for the life I wanted.
That being said, the first few rocky months were followed by some smoother ones, and eventually my personal finance rollercoaster had settled down. I invested some personal time building spreadsheets for my budget and long term goals, and eventually things fell into place. I am absolutely not perfect, and transitioning into a new job has shaken up my game plan just a hair, but these are the things that I have learned about managing your almond-milk money.
- Get Mint. Mint is an incredible app, that helps you keep track of where you are spending your money, how much debt you have to manage, and also helps you set financial goals. If you are an infographic fan like me, you will be a fan of their adorable but effective pie charts, graphs and color coded systems. You can also enable push notifications for this app, Mint will let you know when you are close to going over budget on certain categories, and help you reel yourself in.
- Make payday, your payday. Saving for retirement is one thing (that we won’t discuss just yet), and saving for an emergency is another thing. Having a liquid savings account that you can access if suddenly you need a new tire, or your dog needs to go to the vet is important. It is not only easy to allocate a portion of your paycheck to savings, but even the smallest amount can add up. You would be shocked at what even 5% of your money looks like over the course of a year. If you can afford to, save a bigger chunk. This is the concept of paying yourself first before making other purchases.
- Be Vocal. When I started my new job, I knew that in a lot of ways I would be starting over financially, not from $0. But in the way that I managed my money and my time. That being said, I was transparent with my loved ones who wanted to go shopping or out to dinner, that I was and am currently on a mission to save, and reset. I think opening up the money conversation with people in your inner circle is important, I never talk dollar amounts with anyone, but I always make it known that “I don’t want to spend any money right now” is a viable way to help decide what to do on a Friday night. Spaghetti and Netflix anyone?
- Fix it. In fact, you may not be broke. The management of your money may be broken. If you feel like you don’t know where your money goes, take a minute and really look. What are you spending your money on and how often are you spending? The best way I have found to track your Washingtons is to write it down. The sheer task of having to write down when and where you’ve spent money may help you not want to spend. Try it for a week and see what happens, then see where you can cut back and save or stow away towards a goal.
As state earlier, and worth repeating, I am no where near perfect when it comes to managing my money. However I have fallen in love with the feeling of being financially secure, and live in fear of the times when I have fallen short of my financial goals. Money is as personal as it gets, so please take this post with a grain of sea salt.
I read a few different articles over the past few weeks about decision making, the importance of being decisive and deliberate blah blah blah… What I found the most interesting was the concept of having a personal uniform. Revolving around the concept that we (as humans) only have so much decision making energy per day, eliminating fringe decisions can help lead us to better decisions in situations that matter.
The article went on to reference Steve Jobs’ classic black turtleneck and jeans, and the classic, yet rarely different suits of President Obama. A foreign concept at first, that when you wake up in the morning, you already know what you are going to wear. (Foreign to me at least)
Being the social experimentalist that I am (huh?), I decided to give the uniform concept a try, and for one 5 day stretch wore nothing but a solid colored t-shirt and jeans to work… and to be completely honest it worked wonders! I usually spend about 10 minutes getting dressed in the morning, 12 minutes if I have to iron something. But the uniform concept cut my dressing time down to about 15 seconds. I am sure I could have cut it back to 10 seconds, but indeed I did have to choose between black or white v-neck a couple times.
So best case scenario I found an extra 11 minutes and 45 seconds in my day, and the day hadn’t really even started yet! Do you know what you can get done in 11 minutes and 45 seconds!? (Insert mind blown hand gesture here).
I very honestly don’t know if I could committ to a “uniform” everyday but now feel as though I have a weapon in my arsenal for next time my life gets a little hectic. I also now know that I can survive socially in almost the exact same outfit for 5 days in a row. WHO KNEW!?
The pic of me and my bestie Watson was shot by my human bestie Jessica Mishiro, who is the force behind Jessica Jordan Photography. You can fall in love with her photos and like her Facebook page here.
Nobody look at me…
As you may have read earlier, or noticed via my Instagram, I have been on the Vegan bandwagon for nearly 7 months. If you care to know why, I’ll tell you right here… Meanwhile because my decision to go Veg. was mostly nutritionally driven, and not political, I do lend myself a cheat day now and then, #chmeatday as I like to call it, is usually one meal where the world is my oyster… or my mac and cheese, or my blt, or my eggs benedict.
That being said I would like to introduce you to this guy…
Ladies and gents this is my kryptonite, the Fennel Sausage Pizza from Portland’s Oven & Shaker. I have an ongoing, yet casual relationship with this pizza. I can actually recall each and every time I have eaten this pizza, it is my version of Champagne. I first encountered this molten pool of sexual smoked mozzarella & fennely goodness nearly three years ago, beastmoding through the entire pie single handedly in front of my then boyfriend who I assume was horrified. Since then: Beers last summer, before the seeing Walk the Moon at the Roseland Theatre, Christmas 2014, Celebrating my new job a few months ago, and one amazing date with a great guy oh so recently… this pizza has crossed my plate.
I would like you to note, as I am writing this my mouth is Literally (LITerally like Rob Lowe from Parks & Rec) watering.
Am I the only one who gets like this with food? Seriously though this pizza. Anywho… Jelly and I decided to have pizza the other night and I said #chmeatday me bro, and then as if a lightbulb went off, I decided to try my own version of my holy grail pizza… This is how it turned out….
Because I don’t eat animal products often, when I do, I tend to go all out. That being said… I put an egg on it.
In case you need to know, we hit our homemade crust with tomato sauce, mozzarella, picked peppers, potato, homemade fennel sausage, green onion and in my case an egg.
I am going to go do some cardio now, and perhaps some soul searching…
What are you up to this weekend?
I am going to try and finish one of these two books, both of which I started in anticipation of the films, and neither of which I have finished quite yet! (oops!) Both movies hit theaters 9/19.
I will also be getting my annual hair cut this weekend (yup it has been one year since my last hair cut… I really need to work on that).
Have a fantastic weekend.
Fall IS my favorite season. I don’t always know why, but I think in may be due to the fact that by the time it rolls around every year, I have missed the rain so much I could cry. This summer was pretty amazing, and I am hopeful that much of the positive energy from the last few months will roll right into the rainy season. True to form, I am keen on saying yes to some new experiences this fall, and carrying on some old traditions as well. Here is my quick and surely incomplete list of things to do this fall.
- Go apple picking
- Corn Maze at Sauvie’s Island
- Host a Friendsgiving
- Expand my Whiskey/Bourbon collection
- Run a few races
- Get a TV… this one is debatable.
- Hike more of Oregon
- Get out of state
- Perhaps cross the Canadian border
- More apple picking
What are you up to this fall?
Are you a good networker? A good people person? Or just a good person to meet in line at the super market or on an elevator? No? Great me either! While I could really care less about my super market line ratatat. I will say that I have over the past few months made a conscious effort to step my networking confidence game up. Truth be told I love meeting people within my industry, also truthfully, I don’t always find it easy to talk about myself in social situations. (Que the anxiety PSA). That being said I have noticed, that like most things in life, the more you practice something, the easier it becomes. Moving to a new company where I didn’t know any of my immediate team mates has helped me not only break out of my shell, but also stretch my professional legs on the tightrope that is networking professionally, and oops maybe making some friends too!
I have found the following things helpful, I am nowhere near being an expert at networking, but these are just a few things that I have found helped me get out of my shell and break the ice. I have also found that even at higher levels within my industry, people still get nervous to talk about themselves sometimes, and it’s nice just to warm up and let them know that you are appreciative and energetic without being overwhelming.
Grish’s tips for not being a complete asshat at networking (asshattery is the scientific term for my early collegiate networking style).
- Do some googling before you go.Get on Linkedin and check out the person or people you will be meeting with. It is a lot easier to find someone in a crowded room if you know what they look like. Also do some conversational homework. Google News is a great place for the rundown of the days events, what is happening in the world/sports/your industry that you can start a conversation with to talk about something other than yourselves for a moment.
- Treat it like a date. Psych yourself up. In my former life I did a lot of Beyonce before leaving the house on days when I knew I would be meeting new teammates at sales meetings and company events. Wash your hair that day, wear deodorant and remember to brush your teeth.
- Be on time. If you are meeting with someone in their place of business be on time, 5 mins early is appropriate. If you are meeting someone in a public place, take all the time you need to be early. If you are meeting someone in a public place and know they may have multiple appointments that day, abide by the 5 minute rule… you can use any beforehand extra time to listen to Beyonce in the car. Arriving too early may make you think you are on your A game, but it may also stress out the person you are meeting with if they have a tight schedule.
- Know yourself. If you are there to ask questions, be transparent, curiosity is a great attribute, especially in creative industries. If you are there to network for a certain job, make your intentions clear in a direct but humble way. It can be awkward telling people what you want, but being forthcoming and approachable about feedback is a great way to not only beginning a network relationship, but also making you a better candidate for the future.
- Notes. If you feel comfortable, take notes. Whether you have a sexy moleskin notebook, or just want to jot down some names of other contacts on your iphone, remember to do so. There is nothing worse than getting home and only being able to remember 3 of the 5 things you talked about. Also make sure you follow up with a thank you. Emails are great, handwritten notes are better when they are appropriate. Also do your best to keep track of personal information and interests, that way if you haven’t done any pop cultural Googling before a chance encounter you can start with “Oh hey! How was your trip to Bali?” and so on…
That is just a small rundown of some of the ways I try and prep to meet people and network. Here are some other great articles on the unique form of speed dating that is professional networking & making friends.
How much sleep do you get every night? Or most nights? Okay weeknights?
I read this article yesterday, and it really got me thinking about my daily ZZZ intake, and how things have changed over the past few years.
I am a big fan of burning the midnight oil, also the early morning oil. Okay really though all the oil, except form 2-4pm when I am basically useless if left unattended or without work to do. I am pretty sure somewhere way back this was my prehistoric nap time. Anyways, what I began to think about was at the times when I was spread the thinnest, and sleeping less that an indulgent 8 hours, were some of the most highly successful and developmental stages in my life. They weren’t always the happiest, or stress free, but they were and are the times I look back on now and am thankful for having poured myself another cup of coffee.
That being said, I have recently gotten in the swing of choosing projects over sleep. Whether they are redoing something in my apartment, helping a friend edit a resume for a new job, or working on other things, I’ve found myself getting to bed a bit later than normal… and Shhh… I like it. (I still average about 7 hours a night in case you were wondering, or if you are my mother and were worried.)
Really though- are there things that you choose over sleep?